Swinger clubs are venues where couples (and sometimes singles) meet up for consensual, non-monogamous fun. Single women are always in hot demand and can typically get in free, whereas single men will typically pay a premium to join the fun.
Some swinger clubs are chic, high-end lounges with strict dress codes, while others are no-frills, anything-goes party spots crawling with gangbangs and orgies.
Most cater to couples looking to swap partners, but some also welcome voyeurs, exhibitionists, and adventurous singles.
If you’re imagining some awkward 70s key party vibe, don’t — modern swinger clubs are slick, well organized, and surprisingly widespread across Europe (as we’ll see below).
How Swinging Took Off In Europe
Europe’s swinging scene has deep roots in post-sexual revolution liberalism, and today, the continent is home to some of the most sophisticated, well-established swinger communities in the world.
Swinging has probably been around forever, but modern European swinger culture really took shape in the 1970s, when France and Germany started opening the first organized sex clubs. These early spots set the ground rules: mutual consent, discretion, and equal participation.
Values that still shape the scene today.
Then came the internet, a raft of forums, classified sites, and the scene exploded.
Dating platforms like Victoria Milan (founded in Norway) made it easier for couples (and the curious) to connect, turning swinging into a cross-border phenomenon.
Recent surveys suggest that 30.3% of European women have tried swinging, with France leading the pack at 33.8%.
(Take this with a pinch of salt as the survey was run by Victoria Milan, who have an obvious finger in the Lifestyle pie!)
By the 2000s, swinging wasn’t just about private clubs and secret parties anymore. It merged with luxury travel, leading to hybrid events in high-end Mediterranean resorts where sun, cocktails, and open-minded encounters go hand in hand.
As you will see in our city guides, swinger clubs play a huge role in the adult industry of practically every major city. They act as a magnet for open-minded couples and curious singles alike.
Swinging Culture Across Europe
Swinging activity by country is closely tied to where each nation stands on social values, and whether it leans progressive/liberal or conservative/religious.
For example, The Lifestyle is famously popular in liberal France, while conservative countries like Ireland have fewer choices and a shortage of local events (although, ironically, the Irish are pretty keen on dogging!).
France
France dominates European swinging with 33.8% of couples engaging in the lifestyle (if we’re to believe the folks at Victoria Milan!).
We think they’re onto something if the number of swinger clubs in Paris is anything to go by!
Elsewhere, the coastal naturist resort Cap d’Agde exemplifies French sophistication – a self-contained “naked city” featuring upscale swinger clubs like Le Glamour alongside family-friendly beaches.
Major Parisian venues lean toward exclusive membership clubs requiring vetting processes (a new and growing trend), while provincial cities tend to do things a bit more old-school.
Germany
Germany’s swinging participation triples the European average in major cities, powered by institutionalized venues like Berlin’s Insomnia and Joyclub.de – a digital platform we recently profiled that is responsible for a staggering 820+ events every month.
Frankfurt’s Bar-Celona Club typifies German efficiency with themed rooms (BDSM dungeon, pool area) operating under strict hygiene protocols. Unlike France’s partner-focused ethos, 16% of German swingers actually prefer foursome arrangements.
Germany, eh?
Kinky bastards.
The UK
The United Kingdom boasts one of the continent’s largest swinging scenes, with an estimated 1.5 million swingers nationwide.
We researched a huge list of UK-based swinger clubs, and it’s clear that you’ll find events popping up in every corner of the country.
Surprisingly, Lincolnshire has claimed the title of the UK’s new “swinging capital.” A big part of that reputation comes from hosting Swingathon, a Glastonbury-style sex festival where tickets go for a steamy £265 a pop.
Western Europe Trends
Amsterdam’s Fata Morgana represents the Dutch approach – a labyrinthine venue with jazz bars, dance floors, and private suites accommodating 500+ guests nightly.
The city’s 62 registered swinger clubs (as of 2025) range from LGBTQ+-focused spaces to fetish-specific venues where literally anything goes. Nothing less than we’d expect from the ‘Dam.
Belgium’s Fun4Two near Breda pioneered the “no single males” policy now adopted globally, while Luxembourg has a smaller scene dominated by invitation-only mansion parties.
And yes, you need to be involved in the right circles to stand any chance of scoring an invite.
Southern Europe Trends
Further south in Europe, Spain’s Costa del Sol and Ibiza host some epic swinging resorts like Desire Pearl, where it’s said that most of the erotic action involves ‘voyeuristic experiences’ rather than direct participation.
Italy’s wife-swapping community thrives through private villas in Tuscany and Sicily, contrasting with Greece’s Mykonos beach parties where pretty much anything goes.
Notable European Swinger Venues
There are thousands of swinging events held across Europe every month, and hundreds of swinger clubs.
We can’t provide a definitive list (although we have detailed coverage in our city guides), but here are some of the continent’s most famous Lifestyle venues.
KitKatClub (Berlin, Germany)
Established in 1994 by Austrian filmmaker Simon Thaur and his partner Kirsten Krüger, KitKatClub has reached legendary status for its sexually uninhibited parties and wild public orgies.
Guests are encouraged to ‘express themselves freely’, to which the guests will typically reply: “Hold my beer.”
The club has areas designated for sex and play sessions. It also enforces a strict dress code, requiring attire such as fetish wear, latex, leather, or glamorous outfits — just to get through the door.
Over the years, KitKatClub has become a symbol of Berlin’s hedonistic nightlife, attracting a diverse crowd from around the world.
Cap d’Agde Naturist Resort (Hérault, France)
Often referred to as the “Naked City,” Cap d’Agde is a large naturist resort on the French Mediterranean coast.
In fact, it’s said to be Europe’s largest lifestyle destination spanning 2km² with 38 hotels, 12 nightclubs, and daily workshops (on point, of course, with themes like tantra and unleashing sexual energy).
This self-contained village, where nudity is commonplace, has become a hotspot for swingers and libertines. Its liberal atmosphere and extensive facilities make it a premier destination for those seeking a kink-filled getaway.
Insomnia Club (Berlin, Germany)
Another staple in Berlin’s sex scene, this industrial-chic space can host around 1,200+ guests nightly across six themed floors.
We previously described Insomnia as the “kinkiest nightclub in Germany” (no mean feat), and we’re not walking it back. The venue also includes a rooftop pool (25°C year-round) and sophisticated biometric entry systems.
Once again, gotta love that German efficiency…
Fata Morgana (Amsterdam, Netherlands)
A four-story canal house with Roman baths, silk-draped playrooms, and a restaurant serving aphrodisiac menus to get your blood flowing to all the right places.
Fata Morgana has a strict door policy requiring pre-submitted STI tests.
How Can I Find Other Swingers Near Me?
When it comes to The Lifestyle, it’s not what you know, it’s who you know.
Sure, you can stumble across a swinger club by sheer luck, but the best way to get involved locally is to tap into the trusty Internet: swingers’ favourite wingman.
Here are the communities we recommend for uncovering local sex parties…
SDC (Swingers Date Club)
Top of our list and insanely popular among seasoned swingers and newbies alike, SDC (Swingers Date Club) is the go-to platform for The Lifestyle in Europe.
With over 3 million members worldwide (*33,000 online at the time of writing), SDC offers club listings, travel opportunities, and private chatrooms where couples and singles can connect.
The site is especially useful for finding exclusive invite-only parties that aren’t published anywhere else.
In fact, we know of many local swinger societies that run their events exclusively through SDC. It’s a no-brainer if you’re new to the scene, and particularly if you travel a lot to new cities.
Victoria Milan
At first glance, Victoria Milan looks like an affair site. The branding leans heavily into “discreet encounters” for married people, with advertising focused on cheating without getting caught.
The platform even has a panic button that instantly switches your screen to something innocent — just in case your partner walks in. Could be useful on this site, too!
Unsurprisingly, the press eats this up, often labeling Victoria Milan as another Ashley Madison clone, catering exclusively to married folks looking to cheat.
But here’s the reality: Victoria Milan is actually one of the biggest platforms for swingers in Europe.
While it does attract affair-seekers, a huge portion of its user base (estimated at 4.9 million users) is made up of committed couples looking to explore swinging together.
Joyclub.de
Joyclub is an absolute powerhouse for swinger events in Germany and beyond.
The platform coordinates over 12,000 events every month, covering everything from classic swinger parties and BDSM meetups to themed club nights and private orgies.
It’s Germany’s dominant swinger platform – nearly every major club, group, and private host lists their events there.
One thing you’re either gonna love or hate — it has Strict ID verification, designed to flush out fake profiles and minimise catfishing.
SwingTowns
Lesser known, but increasingly popular across the continent.
This pan-European network specializes in rural connections and meetups in less obvious locations, using geolocation to alert users when lifestyle couples visit their area.
While it’s not as event-heavy as Joyclub.de or as high-end as SDC, SwingTowns quietly serves a massive user base that doesn’t always have easy access to traditional swinger clubs.