Hooking Up with Dutch Women: A Tourist’s Guide

Heading to the Netherlands and fancy your chances at hooking up with a Dutch girl?

Known for being confident and independent women, Dutch girls have a reputation for being dominant creatures in general, as well as in the bedroom. Tall, blonde and with good fashion sense there’s a reason those BeNeLux girls get our pulses racing.

In this guide, we give you our top tips for hooking up with Dutch Women, some ideas for where best to pick up a Dutch girl and what to expect from your average Dutch girl (did we just say ‘average’?).

What are Dutch Girls Like?

The ethnic make-up of the Netherlands is largely Germanic with native Dutch girls more likely to be taller than average, blonde and with blue eyes. This is more prevalent outside of Amsterdam where the city tends to be comprised of more immigrants, foreigners and tourists.

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Stop me and buy one. Where do you find these confident Dutch girls? Image via Flickr.

Obviously the free movement of Europe has led to a huge diversity in looks but culturally speaking, Dutch girls are liberal, open minded and confident. They have a particular reputation for being direct (almost to the point of being rude), independent and, for want of a better word, a little bolshie.


Tips for Hooking Up with Dutch Girls

Be Direct

There is nothing guaranteed to put a Dutch woman off more than a man who isn’t bold enough to ask for exactly what he wants. Stuttering, stammering and beating around the bush (leave that part until later) could see her turn off completely. Be direct, be confident and give her your best lines right from the off.

Give Her a Head Start and Enjoy the Chase

Though they are strong and assertive and will take the initiative, being passive is a no-no. Our best advice in dealing with a Dutch woman to boost your chances of getting some casual action is to match her attitude. Long considered to be a powerful way to hook up, mirroring is a technique that is best employed to match body language. We say, go one step further and if she is behaving dominantly then match (but don’t top) her. Less alpha male and more equal sparring partner. You never know, you might enjoy letting her have the upper hand in the bedroom.

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The thrill of the chase. Give a Dutch girl a head start and enjoy catching up. Image via Flickr.

Drop the Gentlemanly Approach

It might be counter intuitive for some guys, particularly the Brits, when it comes to opening doors, picking up the tab and behaving like a gent. The Dutch don’t buy into these outmoded traditions of ‘manners’. The largely egalitarian society means that girls want to be treated equally and find these kind of showy tricks as being insulting and contemptible.

Be Prepared for Group Hunting

Dutch women travel in packs so if you can take a wing man along with you to help you divide and conquer then do so. Don’t be intimated by large groups of Dutch girls, just stick to your guns and go in with your head held high.

Pay Attention to What you Wear

You don’t have to be a dedicated follower of fashion but Dutch women are known for being trendy and hip so looking good is essential. We’ll thrown in an obvious one just to be on the safe side and make sure you smell good too.

Don’t Contradict Them

There’s nothing new about women liking to be right but Dutch ladies live and die by this belief. It might not be the best way to start a long-term relationship but for a hook-up, just go with the flow.

Good Places to Find Dutch Women

If you are looking to pull a Dutch woman in Amsterdam then you have plenty of choices. Here are our favourites.

Cooldown Café

Lange Leidsedwarsstraat 116 3 BG, 1017 NN Amsterdam

Tel: +31 20 421 2284


Known for being a great place to head after you’ve been clubbing, the Cooldown Café is open from 10.30pm to 4.00am (5.00am on Saturday and Sunday mornings).

With a small dance floor complete with a DJ playing tunes guaranteed to keep the party vibe going, if only for that comedown you experience as you watch the small hours float by. It’s reasonably common for most people to be a little drunk and the reduced inhibitions often lead to strangers hooking up right there in the café.

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Things heat up, post party at the Cooldown Cafe. Image via Google Earth.

& Samhoud Places

Oosterdokskade 5, 1011 AD Amsterdam

Tel: +31 20 260 2094


This is a very high-end place to meet the upmarket MILFS of Amsterdam. Though the place is a Michelin starred restaurant (twice over, no less), they have a DJ at weekends. You can spend some time at the bar and try your luck. Just make sure to dress to impress as there is some serious money (and talent) here.

Café Lux

Marnixstraat 403, 1017 PJ Amsterdam

Tel: +31 10 422 1412


A well-known meat market, this pre-club bar in the Leidseplein is a great place to meet up with large groups of Dutch women. It is likely that if you play your cards right you (and your wing man) can tag along with them for a night of high-jinx.

The atmosphere here is always full or giddy promise and expectation, just be prepared to bring you’re A-game to the table as there will be lots of competition.

The Palladium

Kleine-Gartmanplantsoen 7, 1017 RP Amsterdam

Tel: +31 20 620 5536


Flash any amount of cash at the Palladium and you will be on to a winner. It has a reputation for attracting gold diggers. It might end up costing you more than a quick session with a working girl but it could be fun trying, if you can afford it. On the up side, the girls who hang out here are usually pretty attractive and make a big effort